Self Doubt – Replace minor life depression with Super Stardom

Self Doubt – Replace minor life depression with Super Stardom


I consider myself a very hard working, multi tasking, organized, detail oriented and basically anal person. Most people I know agree with this assessment of my character. These character traits on are not necessarily bad, in fact for business they are very useful. Then there are other days. You know the days I’m talking about. No matter how efficient of an individual you are, your personal hard drive shuts down completely. You walk around in pj’s moping around the house with your coffee in one hand and remote control in the other. You say you are sick. Legitimately, you are sick, after all your personal hard drive just fried. Then it happens. You look around your house, your family and your life and it hits you. Your house, your family and your life (outside of work) have seriously been neglected. You begin to feel sick to your stomach. Instead of getting up and doing something you slump down even more.

Ok maybe it’s not that drastic. Maybe your kids are clean, healthy, well fed, home work done, and off to another day of school no problems. Maybe your life is filled with personal social appointments that you actually keep. Maybe it’s just a slight non maintenance of the house. Or turn the order of any of those other circumstances around. Basically, it’s not the end of the world – but by now you have fallen in to the pit of self doubt.

We all fall in to the pit of self doubt. We worry about all those things work, house, family and life. We want to be a superstar individual making sure that all four balls keep juggling all the time, and never missing a beat. I got to tell you my juggling skills are really lacking. What about yours? That’s why we fall into that self doubt phase. We are supposed to be picture perfect all the time! Listen we aren’t picture perfect. Perfect maybe in our eyes J But not picture perfect. We live by the busiest railways in town and no matter how many times we straighten that picture, it keeps slipping. Does that mean you stop trying to make it perfect? Maybe. Why keep straightening it, when you know it’s going to fall again. We need another solution.

Instead of trying to straighten that picture frame for the 100th time this month, let’s try something else. If we put our thinking caps on we will see there are numerous solutions to the falling picture. We can take if off the wall! The problem with that solution is that once it’s gone, it will be sorely missed on the wall. So maybe that’s slightly drastic. How about moving it to a different wall? Changing the environment might work. Will it, really? I learned years ago you can’t run away from your problems, because they follow us. Let’s think about the new wall. Isn’t the train still running through the area? Wouldn’t the new wall still bounce the picture around? We could try it, but most likely, it will only be a temporary solution. How about we simply try to fix the picture from bouncing around when the train passes. Let’s see we could hire someone to come in and help us with the area we are lacking. A handyman might be able to make a shelf underneath or bracket of some type that will help maintain the frame in place in our absence. Like in life we have many helpers, a maid, nanny/ babysitter, or if you have teens have them pick up some of the slack around the house, invite your friends over while you do the house keeping, or oversee the homework. There are so many answers out there. All you have to do is reach out and grab them.

We will still be superstars to our family, friends, coworkers and clients. They will just see that we are smart enough to know when we need help getting things done. So now you have simply upgraded yourself in superstar status. You are now a SMART SUPERSTAR!